Bonjour, lovelorn wanderers and aspiring amour aficionados! So, you’ve set your sights on capturing the heart of a French guy, huh? Well, mon amie, you’ve come to the right place. Welcome to our no-nonsense, tell-it-like-it-is guide on how to navigate the treacherous waters of French romance and emerge victorious in the battle for a Frenchman’s affections.
Now, let’s get real for a moment. Bagging yourself a French guy isn’t like ordering a croissant at your local boulangerie. It takes finesse, charm, and a dash of je ne sais quoi. But fear not, dear reader, because we’re about to spill all the beans (or should I say escargots?) on how to attract, seduce, and keep that French heartthrob coming back for more.
So, grab yourself a café au lait, settle in, and prepare to take notes. Because by the time we’re through with you, you’ll be wielding your French charm like a seasoned Parisian pro. Let’s dive into the deliciously complicated world of dating a French guy, shall we? Allons-y!
But First…
Note: Due to popular demand, we’re adding another entry to our series: AFAM: Affection From Across Miles. Thank you very much for sending in your messages/questions and for the continued support. Keep it coming!
Note 2: Just wanted to give you a heads up that I won’t be able to share all the specifics out of respect for my partner’s privacy. I’ll try to give you the gist of things, but I might have to keep it a bit vague. Thanks for your understanding!
Credit: A massive thank you to my amazing partner, Grayson, for being an absolute champ, for always being incredibly patient and supportive, and for spoiling me. This series wouldn’t even be possible without him. Tu es tout pour moi, Mon Amour!
Disclaimer: I wouldn’t call myself a French expert by any means – I’m just happily engaged to my French guy. Everything I share here is based on my own experiences and what I’ve observed from friends/acquaintances who’ve dated French guys. I do not also mean to stereotype as he is just 1 out of the 64 million French. If you have any questions, need clarifications, or even have some strong opinions to share, feel free to leave a comment below. Merci Beacoup!
Let’s Begin!
1. What makes dating French guys different?
I’ve had my fair share of experiences but dating my French guy? Here’s a few that I’ve observed and experienced:
- He does not try to put on a show or impress anyone. What you see is what you get – no pretending, no games.
- He’s not afraid to show his true colors, even if it means being vulnerable. None of that macho BS; he’s comfortable in his own skin and isn’t afraid to let his guard down.
- He’s not one to beat around the bush. He tells you what’s on his mind, whether you’re ready to hear it or not – no sugarcoating, no fluff.
- When it comes to conversations, this guy doesn’t mess around. Whether it’s politics, or philosophy, or current events, he’s got it covered. So, get ready to dive into some deep and stimulating discussions. Trust me, I’ve gone head-to-head with him more times than I can count, and he never backs down. If you want to prove a point, you better come armed with some solid evidence. Receipts people, receipts!
- Actions speak louder than words, right? Well, his actions speak volumes about who he is. He’s not just all talk; he follows through with his promises and stays true to his word.
- French guys might have a rep for being serial complainers, but when it comes down to it, he’s all about appreciating the little things. Sure, he might grumble about the weather or the state of the world, but deep down, he’s got an eye for the small stuff that really matters.
Compared to the rest, he’s definitely got something special going on. He’s not perfect, but he’s genuine, and in a world full of phonies, that’s worth its weight in gold.
2. How can you tell if a French guy is interested in you?
Like many men, French guys will find ways to stay connected if they’re interested in you. For instance, if he actively engages in conversation, asks questions, and shows genuine interest in getting to know you better, that’s a positive sign. He’s going to invite you to spend some time together. If you’re in a long-distance thing with him, be prepared for a barrage of video call requests.
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3. Do French guys like women who play hard to get?
When it comes to French guys, forget about playing coy or hard to get. They’re all about keeping it real and honest. No mind games or guessing games. According to my partner, they’re into women who are confident, decisive, and know how to have a good time. So be upfront about what you want, and don’t be afraid to take a chance. That’s the ticket to catching the eye of a French charmer.
4. What qualities do French guys look for in a partner?
Not every French guy fits the same mold because, well, everyone’s unique, right? But generally speaking, a French guy tends to be drawn to qualities like confidence, intelligence, and a good sense of humor. Why? Because he appreciates someone who can hold their own in a conversation and keep things light with a good laugh (even if he won’t openly admit it).
Independence is a plus too – he values someone who has their own interests and isn’t overly clingy. Passion? Yeah, he digs that too. He wants someone who shares his zest for life. And as for authenticity? He’s not into mind games; he wants the real deal. Oh, and respect? Well, that’s just basic decency in any relationship, whether you’re French or not.
5. What are some common misconceptions about dating French guys?
While some French guys might have that romantic flair, let’s not paint them all with the same beret, shall we? They’re as diverse as a cheese platter at a Parisian café. Sure, you might stumble upon a smooth-talking seducer, but you might also meet a laid-back dude who’s more into Netflix marathons than candlelit dinners. And let’s not forget, not every Frenchman is strutting around in designer threads or whipping up gourmet meals. Like a box of macarons, they come in all flavors and sizes.
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15 Qualities of French Men You Should Be Aware Of (Especially, If You’re Dating One)
6. How important is physical appearance to French guys?
Physical appearance does matter to French guys. They admire someone who looks after themselves and puts effort into their appearance. However, they’re not fans of going overboard – flashy outfits, anything too revealing, or heavy makeup can be a turn-off. They appreciate a more natural and understated look.
7. What role does communication play in dating a French man?
Communication is crucial when dealing with a French guy. It’s tough enough with language barriers, let alone if you’re not familiar with their ways. Here are some unfiltered truth about what role communication plays in the dating game:
- Blunt AF: He’s brutally honest. So if you can’t handle straightforwardness, you might wanna steer clear. But hey, at least you’ll always know where you stand with him.
- Giving the silent treatment? Yeah, that doesn’t fly with the French guys. They’d rather hash things out and talk it through like adults. So if you’re expecting them to just read your mind, think again. In French culture, silence isn’t necessarily seen as a sign of agreement or contentment. If your French guy goes quiet during a conversation, it could mean he’s mulling things over or processing his thoughts. Don’t be afraid to poke and prod to get him talking again.
- Texting Can Be a Minefield: Navigating the world of texting with a French guy can be a bit of a challenge. They’re not big on small talk or meaningless chatter, so don’t be surprised if their texts are short and to the point. And if they take a while to respond, don’t read too much into it – they’re probably just busy living their lives.
- Actions Speak Louder Than Words: While communication is important, actions often speak louder than words when it comes to dating a French guy. They’re big on showing their affection through gestures rather than gushing declarations of love. So, if your French beau surprises you with by cooking you a gourmet dinner, consider it his way of saying “je t’aime.”
- Respect Goes Both Ways: In French culture, respect is paramount in communication. That means listening to each other, even when you disagree, and treating each other’s opinions with dignity. If you want your relationship with a French guy to thrive, mutual respect is non-negotiable.
- Communication is a Two-Way Street: At the end of the day, communication is a two-way street in any relationship, and dating a French guy is no exception. Be open, be honest, and be willing to listen – it’s the foundation of a healthy and fulfilling partnership.
8. Do French guys prefer women who are outgoing or more reserved?
French guys aren’t into cookie-cutter preferences. Some might fancy a lively, outgoing partner who can light up a room, while others prefer a more laid-back, reserved vibe. It’s like choosing between a croissant and a baguette – it all depends on personal taste.
Personally, I’m as reserved as a bull in a ballet class. No filter, loud as a rock concert, and I’ve got enough words to write a trilogy. Seriously, I could talk your ear off and then some. And my laugh? Well, let’s just say it’s a mix of a hyena and a goose honking. Definitely not the person you want on speakerphone in public, trust me. Now, he’s the introverted type, the silent observer. I’m basically a hurricane, and he’s a calm lake. Beats me why he’s into my whirlwind of chaos, but hey, I’m not complaining!
So just be true to yourself, and the right Frenchman will be charmed by your unique flair, whether you’re the life of the party or the quiet observer in the corner. Vive la différence!
9. How can I learn more about French culture to connect with a French guy on a deeper level?
Show interest in French culture and language by exploring their cuisine, watching French films, or learning a few basic phrases. French guys appreciate when you take the time to understand and appreciate their culture.
He didn’t know I speak French so when I hit him with a “C’est un plaisir de vous rencontrer” (nice to meet you) during our first video call, his eyebrows practically hit the ceiling. And oh boy, did he jump right in to correct my pronunciation. But hey, give the guy credit – at least he didn’t bail on the conversation. Annoying? Maybe a tad, but it definitely made for an interesting icebreaker.
10. How do French guys generally feel about dating someone from a different culture?
French men tend to be quite open to dating someone from a different culture. They often find the diversity exciting and enjoy discovering new customs and traditions.
There was a time my French beau went out of his way to visit a nearby Jollibee (a local fast-food joint in the Philippines) when he was in California, just because I’d mentioned it a few times. Can you believe it? He even ordered the same meals I usually get. When I woke up to those pictures & videos the next morning, I couldn’t stop grinning. And let me tell you, he documented the whole adventure like a pro. When I asked him about it, he simply said he wanted to “immerse himself in the culture.” Talk about making my heart melt. Needless to say, he earned himself a gazillion “Pogi Points” in my book!
I have a pretty neutral accent, but my French guy finds it absolutely adorable when I playfully switch to my exaggerated Filipino/Visayan accent, especially when I call him “Sinta” (an old-fashioned Filipino term for “love”) or “Dodong” (which means “boy” in Visayan but doubles as a sweet endearment). It’s like his grumpy-old-man face disappears instantly, and he’ll often comment with a smile, “Tu es mignonne” (which means “You are cute” in French). That man RARELY smiles.
He’s even picked up a few Tagalog words and occasionally drops them into conversation, which always catches me off guard.
However, keep in mind that everyone has their own preferences, so it’s crucial to have open communication with your partner about any cultural differences and work together to find common ground.
Some back story:
Our story begins in the digital realm back in late 2017, but it wasn’t until the following year that things really sparked. He’d only seen the curated pictures I posted on my socials. But then, during one of our chats, I regaled him with tales of my Tokyo escapades (in real time), and he asked me for photos. So, being the obliging storyteller that I am, I sent him these photos. And guess what? Minutes later, he’s asking for a videocall.
Ever been in that glorious moment of lunch time chaos, where deciphering the menu feels like deciphering ancient hieroglyphs? Yeah, been there, done that. And guess who had a front-row seat to my epic menu meltdown? This French guy, of course! Couldn’t resist a chuckle at my expense. Rude. Thank the heavens for my trusty earphones to shield me from embarrassment!
At first, I was convinced he was a catfish. I mean, he was ridiculously good-looking, like straight out of a magazine. I teased him about it, even got a bit combative. Haha!
11. Are French guys open to long-term commitment and marriage?
Absolutely! Even though French guys might have a bit of a reputation for enjoying the single life, many of them are totally down for long-term commitment and even tying the knot when they meet that special someone.
12. What are some romantic gestures that French guys appreciate?
I don’t know if it’s a French quirk, but my guy is all about physical affection. He’s lowkey into it when I surprise him with hugs or kisses, or when I rest my head on his shoulder, or even when I mess with his hair. And don’t get me started on flopping on him while he’s reading – he secretly digs it. I’m all about invading his personal space, and lucky for me, he doesn’t seem to mind one bit. Touchy-feely? Guilty as charged, and loving every minute of it.
He’s not just about the physical stuff – my man appreciates those little gestures that scream thoughtfulness. Think surprise dates, weekend getaways, cooking up a storm together, giving gifts that actually mean something, and laying it all out there. And you know what? Being genuinely interested in each other’s well-being? That’s our sweet spot. It’s all about finding those gestures that make us both feel like we hit the relationship jackpot.
13. How do French guys typically express affection in a relationship?
My French beau is not exactly a chatterbox, but boy, does he know how to speak the language of love. From those tender touches and kisses to those rare but oh-so-sweet compliments, he’s got his own unique way of showing affection. And let’s talk about those thoughtful gestures – surprise visits, meaningful gifts, hand-holding, and pulling me in close when we’re out and about. It’s his subtle way of saying, “Hey, I’m crazy about you.” He’s not all talk – he actually walks the walk and follows through with his promises. Now that’s what I call a keeper.
14. What’s the French stance on public displays of affection?
French guys typically don’t mind public displays of affection, but being here in the Philippines, where we’re a tad more conservative, my man keeps it low-key with light kisses and hand-holding in public. He’s always respectful and never does anything that makes me uncomfortable. And he assures me it’s the same back in France – they won’t make a move without their partner’s consent. So, no need to worry about getting a full-on French kiss in front of strangers (unless, you know, that’s your thing!). We save those steamy moments for when we’re all alone.
15. How do French guys typically handle jealousy in relationships?
French guys might come off as aloof, but don’t be fooled – they’ve got their own jealousy triggers, and they are not afraid to show it.
First off, spending too much time with someone of the opposite sex? Yeah, that’s like waving a red flag in front of a bull for French guys. If your French beau catches wind of you cozying up to your male friend or coworker, expect some serious side-eye.
Then there’s the flirting game. French culture practically worships the art of seduction, so it’s no surprise that French guys are hypersensitive to it. A little harmless banter is one thing, but if you’re turning on the charm for every Tom, Dick, and Henry, don’t be shocked if your French boyfriend starts feeling a tad uneasy.
And let’s not forget about the attention and affection department. In French culture, passion and romance are non-negotiables. So if your French beau feels like he’s getting the cold shoulder, he’s bound to get a case of the green-eyed monster.
Bottom line? Knowing these triggers can help you steer clear of some serious relationship turbulence with your French guy.
16. What role does family play in a French man’s dating life?
Family holds significant sway in a French man’s dating life. Though they might not always adhere strictly to their family’s desires, their input carries weight and is often taken into account when assessing a potential partner.
17. How can I maintain my independence while dating a French man?
Keeping your independence while dating a French guy isn’t rocket science, but it does require some clear communication and boundaries. You gotta speak up for yourself, mon amie – let ’em know what you’re all about. Don’t forget about your own dreams and goals along the way. It’s all about finding that sweet spot between being joined at the hip and flying solo. French guys dig partners who’ve got their own thing going on, so don’t be shy about chasing your passions.
And hey, being assertive? It’s like being a boss without being a bully. It’s all about speaking your mind without steamrolling over others – including your French beau. Especially, your French beau. So go ahead, lay down the law with style.
18. How do French guys typically celebrate special occasions like anniversaries or birthdays, or Valentines?
When it comes to celebrations, my man says the French keep it low-key. Birthdays and Christmas? Sure, they’ll trek back to the family homestead for some quality time, but don’t expect fireworks. As for other wins like job promotions? Nah, they don’t break out the party hats for that.
You wanna hear what really gets me? Despite all the French nonchalance, this guy goes all out for my birthday and our anniversary (the one I declared because French dating is a mystery). Every single year, he’s got some surprise up his sleeve.
He knows I’m all about celebrations, whether it’s a legit holiday or just some random day I’ve dubbed “National Pizza Day” or whatever.
19. Is it true that French guys are more passionate lovers?
If I were to TripAdvisor this, it’d be a solid five stars and a standing ovation.
20. How do French guys typically handle disagreements or conflicts in relationships?
When it comes to disagreements or conflicts in relationships, my partner often handle them with a blend of directness and diplomacy. He values open communication and isn’t afraid to voice his opinions or concerns. While passionate discussions may arise, he makes an effort to find common ground and resolve issues amicably. It’s worth noting that individual approaches can vary, and some French guys may prefer to avoid confrontation altogether.
In my experience, even during our arguments, he’s never raised his voice at me or been condescending. He never made me feel dumb or belittled my opinions. I believe his upbringing, experiences, and age might have influenced this respectful approach.
21. What are some cultural taboos to avoid when dating a French guy?
Here are a few points my partner brought up.
- Talking About Money: The French, in general, aren’t keen on flashing their cash or hearing about yours straight out the gate. Save the finance talk for later or risk coming off as a bit gauche.
- Being Too Aggressive: French guys would rather have a feather’s touch than a rhino’s rampage. Keep the aggression in check and opt for a more suave approach to win their heart.
- Discussing Politics or Religion Too Soon: Yes, they love a good debate, but diving into politics or religion off the bat is like adding a dash of drama to your croissant. Keep it light and breezy until you’ve sussed out their stance.
- Fair warning, mon amie, better think twice before jumping into a debate with a French guy, unless you’re armed with facts, it’s like bringing a spoon to a knife fight. So, save yourself the trouble and hit the eject button on that mission!
- Being Too Loud or Boisterous: The French social scenes are all about finesse, not a full-blown circus act. Tone down the volume and channel your inner sophistication for a soirée to remember.
22. How can I impress a French man with my cooking skills?
He’s a total foodie! He loves admiring food, chatting about it, whipping up delicious dishes, and of course, indulging in them too. So I am not sure if it’s a French-thing or a him-thing.
Cook up some delicious homemade meals using the freshest, high-quality ingredients you can find (trust me, they can tell!). Whether you’re sticking to classic French recipes or adding your own flair, showcasing your culinary talents is bound to impress him.
I even tapped into the ultimate source of French cuisine – his mom – and she generously handed over one of her prized cookbooks. After our first attempt together, I came pretty close to mastering his favorite dish, Entrecote Bordelaise, on the second try. It’s all about pouring your heart and soul into the food you make.
He’s also quite adventurous when it comes to trying food that isn’t French.
23. Are they open to trying out food that isn’t French?
Absolutely! French guys are often open to trying out food from various cuisines around the world. While they may have a deep appreciation for French cuisine, many are adventurous eaters who enjoy exploring new flavors and dishes from different cultures. So don’t hesitate to introduce them to your favorite non-French cuisines – they might just discover a new culinary love.
I conducted a poll in a French group on Facebook, and it turns out that about 47 out of 51 respondents are open to trying out foreign food. I’ve had the pleasure of introducing my partner to some Filipino dishes, and he’s found a few favorites among them. In particular, he’s really taken a liking to Kare-Kare (shout out, Cafe Juanita) and has even requested it on a few occasions.
24. What are some ways to keep the relationship exciting and fulfilling with a French man?
Keep the relationship exciting and fulfilling by planning spontaneous adventures, trying new experiences together, and nurturing emotional intimacy through open communication and affection.
25. Does your partner read your blog?
Oh, absolutely! He reads, proofreads (sometimes), and even throws in some extra spice when needed. Gotta love having him around for that extra pair of eyes and creative flair, right?
He’s been the main character for some of my posts here, and he quipped about feeling like a guinea pig (well, a very beau et charmant guinea pig, if I may add) — constantly finding himself at the center of my creative trials.
Voilà! You’ve made it to the end of our crash course on winning over a French guy. Félicitations! Now, armed with our witty wisdom and sharp savoir-faire, you’re ready to tackle the dating scene with all the confidence of a Parisian fashionista strutting down the Champs-Élysées.
Remember, romancing a French guy isn’t about playing games or following a strict playbook. It’s about embracing the spontaneity, passion, and joie de vivre that makes French romance oh-so-irresistible. So, go ahead, sprinkle some French flair into your love life, and watch as your très charmant French guy falls head over heels.
But hey, if all else fails, just remember the immortal words of Julia Child: “If you’re afraid of butter, use cream.” In other words, when in doubt, go for the gusto and let your heart lead the way.
Now, go forth, mes amis, and may the spirit of amour be forever in your favor. Bonne chance et à bientôt!
